Will Smith has stated that he aspires to have a "harem of girlfriends" that includes Misty Copeland and Halle Berry.
Marriage is a lot of work and takes a lot of effort from both the parties involved to make it work. It's not all sunshine and roses. Actor Will Smith has opened up about his own rocky marriage with Jada Pinkett Smith in a recent interview with GQ. The state of their marriage was much talked about last year and The Pursuit of Happyness actor decided to reveal the current true nature of their marriage in the interview as well as his memoir, Will, which will be hitting shelves this November. During a conversation on Jada's Red Table Talk show, the two had already acknowledged their relationship had gone to the point of separation.
Will and Jada married in 1997. Explaining how they grew up with different values the 53-year-old said, "Jada never believed in conventional marriage... Jada had family members that had an unconventional relationship. So she grew up in a way that was very different than how I grew up." He added, "There were significant endless discussions about, what is relational perfection? What is the perfect way to interact as a couple? And for the large part of our relationship, monogamy was what we chose, not thinking of monogamy as the only relational perfection."
Will noted how Jada had never wanted a marriage in the conventional sense but had relented for his sake. Over the years she made a lot of compromises to the point where it reached a breaking point. “Our marriage wasn’t working,” Will stated. “We could no longer pretend. We were both miserable and clearly, something had to change.” The two of them then stopped being monogamous with each other, he revealed. “We have given each other trust and freedom, with the belief that everybody has to find their own way. And marriage for us can’t be a prison.
He also said that this approach towards their marital life was not something for everyone, "I don’t suggest our road for anybody. I don’t suggest this road for anybody. But the experiences that the freedoms that we’ve given one another and the unconditional support, to me, is the highest definition of love." He thought that they had to essentially destroy their marriage to make it survive. But divorce was never even an option for them. Now, Will is adapting to the non-monogamous lifestyle and is working with Michaela Boehm, an intimacy coach to come to terms with it.
In his sessions with Boehm, Will stated that he aspires to have a "harem of girlfriends" that includes Misty Copeland and Halle Berry. “I don’t know where I saw it or some s*** as a teenager, but the idea of traveling with 20 women that I loved and took care of and all of that, it seemed like a really great idea,” he said. “And then, after we played it out a little bit, I was like, ‘That would be horrific. That would be horrific.’" He went on to explain that this was merely an exercise from his coach to let him know it was okay to be himself, and it did not make him a bad person that he married and thought Halle Berry is beautiful.